http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog Sat, 16 Feb 2008 19:34:36 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en The real life of love is in action. Love is a verb. However, when you express your love in language, you are acting out your love in a way that partners get, pretty much immediately. When you say "I love you" with the right tone of voice ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=21 It's Valentines Day; and all over the world, women will receive roses, chocolate and jewelry as an expression they are loved.  It's wonderful stuff and great to receive.  We believe LOVE is a verb, and the way you know your mate loves you is by their actions.  It's not the ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=20 Each week I get frantic calls from spouses trying as a last ditch effort to save their marriage; but often, it is too late.  Their spouse has already moved out or filed for divorce; and when asked if they knew their marriage was in trouble, they usually say yes.  They ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=19 Over the Christmas holiday, an event occured in my life that reinforced so deeply the importance of just being happy rather than fighting over who is right.  My parents who are in their 70's collided with an eighteen wheeler and miraculously were NOT harmed!  Just before they had the accident, they were ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=18 How much energy does it take? At times, everything you have and then it is never enough! How Painful is it? Watching your mate in pain with no means of curing them leaves you with heart ache of your own; and the wounded mate seldom sees the depth of your pain. How hard is ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=17 After a marriage crisis, it’s hard to rebuild trust, for both mates. For the offendee – the mate who feels betrayed, deserted, abandoned, or discarded – trusting feels unsafe, the last thing they are inclined to do. For the offender – the mate who strayed but who now wants to ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=14 Some gifts that you give your spouse are toxic. They poison the relationship, and you do neither yourself nor your partner any favors by giving them.Any time it feels like you are 'giving in,' you are preparing to bestow a toxic gift on your partner. You should stop immediately, tell ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=13 Suppose that you were listening to the radio, and you heard an announcer say over dramatic music, “There’s magic when you’re mad that can make everything … every single thing… better… immediately. Instantaneously! … Instantly better…Are you interested?” Would you be? Interested?   When you are in the ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=12 You do get to choose. That's the good news The bad news is you have to choose. You don't get to have both, even though the committee that meets inside your head is clamoring for a both-and victory. During the euphoric/romantic phase of a relationship -- when your ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=11 November and December are stressful enough, much less for couples who are having trouble. The reasons are obvious.Thanksgiving and the December holidays are family celebrations. Couples are families, by definition, whether or not they have kids. So you’re supposed to spend your time together, and all the traditions imply that ... http://www.relationshiprich.org/marriage-blog/?p=10